What do men and women lie about the most on dating sites?

Unfortunately people lie. In real life and on dating sites. There are different reasons why people do that. Some are simply insecure and cannot believe someone will give them a chance if “all they are” is being themselves. Others have more sinister motives preying on people. There are ways to protect yourself and as always I advise that you take your time, don’t give any personal information until truly comfortable and simply don’t make any quick decisions without sleeping over them.

We all have intuition and when it comes down to it, it is accessible to guide us.

Here is what men and women both lie about the most on datings sites:


1) Income

Claiming to make more money appears to be the number 1 lie men tell in their online dating profiles.

The perception is often that women want stability at least and an amazing lifestyle at best. However, that is not always the case: Women often desire to build a future together with their men. In Western culture a woman is not always interested in depending on a man financially, but rather wants to make her own dreams come true and simply needs a man who is supportive of that. If insecurity is why YOU may think you need to inflate your income, know that with false expectations set you will start a relationship on a very bad note as being “caught” is likely. And if you are lucky and the lady does not care about your income either way, then there was no “need” to boost the numbers to begin with.

2) Height

The second biggest lie men tell on their dating profiles tends to be adding some inches.

This is such a common white lie that is often used by movie actors and average men alike. I am not quite sure why there is this need as I often see men of shorter statue with a tall, model-like woman. Some women prefer taller men. Other women simply do not care. And my advice is to just BE and know that the advantage of being on a dating site is to filter your search based on what you care about and ignore the parts that you just don’t.

3) Previous marriages

Leaving out relationships that didn’t work is also common. Women do not tend to do it that much.

Giving the woman the impression that she may be doomed for the same type of ending as the other(s) is something that reasonably many try to avoid. “Don’t judge me by my past” is often the thing men are really trying to say when clicking on “single” rather than “divorced”.

If you have truly closed the doors to your past and decided to start over, there is no need to lie. Lay the cards out and show by being you that there is no need to worry about this.

4) Being “too nice”

Women do not need a “nice guy”, but a real guy. Anybody can act nice. Who are YOU and what do YOU have to offer?

Yes, women make the mistake to say “I want a nice guy”, because what you need is a REAL GUY. Anybody can be nice, but if this is not the true you, then you deserve to finish last. Women who are alert and have clean energy often sense and assume fakeness. Show your edges. Show controlled anger if it’s there. Give her an idea of what you want, where you are going in life and what it is you need. Pretending everything is great all the time won’t give her the chance to help you get where you are. Remember: Love changes everything and that includes you. But you cannot try to be perfect already when all you need is a true partnership to grow into the best versions of you both together and let her see your strong sides as well as her weaknesses. Then she knows what she can rely on and lean on as well as where her strength might compliment and help you make your life better.

5) Children

Nobody wants to appear to have baggage, but playing with open cards always works best long-term.

Do you have children? And think it might be “best to leave that part out”? Don’t!


1) Weight

Many women believe that the man they really want won’t pay attention to them if their scale goes beyond a certain number.

Do you really think it is just the weight that might keep a man from dating you? Or could it be something else? Why do you think you have gained weight? Could it be that it is more of an expression of something that might be keeping you from letting someone get close to you?

Not all heavyset people are created equal. There are women who are heavy, have always been, but have amazing energy to them and often wind up with a goodlooking and successful man simply because they inspire him and both are compatible on most of the other levels.

There are two solution in my opinion:

1) Stand behind your weight and see where it takes you.
2) Get some healing and be a warrior against it rather than ignoring its existence.

The best thing is not to think about your weight, but live your life according to a very simple rule:

1) Only eat what is fresh and what is natural.
2) Listen to what you crave amongst those foods.

If you crave potato chips, it is not exactly those boring tasting potato skins that you crave, but the artificial flavoring. Instead of going for potato chips, look at what those artificial ingredients simulate and buy the real deal such as paprica, onions, garlic and whatever else there is.

Also avoid bread as it simply isn’t food, but filler. And that also goes for pasta and pizza. If you crave some carbs, try baked or cooked potatoes and rice.

Some people who have diabetes can live well without insulin if their diet consists of vegetables and meat alone and there is a reason for that. Life is very simple, but we are allowing it to become difficult. And this very natural and simple advice is not given to help you lower the number of your scale… it is to help you be healthy. And with health comes better more positive energy resulting in yes, a better aura, more of a dynamic presence, an overall higher quality of life and probably a look that will help shine the true you through.

2) Age

Racquel Welsh, now 77, is only one of many women whose age has not slowed them down.

A man does not need to love you for him to sleep with you. If you use a photo that is 20 years old, he will be attracted to that picture. Then when he meets you, he may or may not care but he may also be attracted enough to sleep with you, but afterwards lose interest as you simply are not what he has anticipated. When people feel deceived, they can also get angry and become hurtful and indifferent as a result. My advice is to never use a picture more than 3 years old. You want to give the man the feeling of who you are NOW. Who you have involved into. Look at your face and get an idea of where you have been and where you wish to go in life. There is more to life that age and energy is a big one. Some women look more attractive in their 50s than they did in their 30s and that often comes from an inner reboot and most of all a different outlook on life.

If you are not happy with yourself, do not put the blame on age. Turn things around and look at women whose careers have taking a positive turn at a higher age. Then look at the men they are with. And then tell me again that you really need to lie about how old you are.

3) Interests

Whatever your interests: If you don’t “come clean”, you may have to give them up or practice them in secret.

This is something that has surprised me learning it. Apparently quite a few women believe that if their true personality shows too much, men will not be drawn to them, so they rather than answering questions honestly try to design them to appear “easy to live with”.

This is one of the huge reasons why there is so much miscommunication as eventually our true colors do show and you may wind up with a guy who took your answers at face value rather than someone who can accept and actually like who you are getting the chance to date you.

Just be you and see where things go, because dating sites are full of men and women and out of these many fish in the sea, you will probably be happiest when finding the one most suited for you. And that will not happen when you try to please everyone.

4) Expectations

If your outlook on life is that you do not deserve to aim high, it can eventually make your future partner feel like a “plan B”.

Think you come off superficial if requiring a man of a certain height with athletic built who considers himself very attractive? Or shallow if you require a certain income in a partner?

Yes, love comes when it comes and how many times have you heard someone perfectly happy with her partner say “it is weird, because he is SO NOT MY TYPE”?

The truth is we are usually walking through all the requirements stated when love kicks in and at later times often consider what we once held important as silly. But it is good that while on this journey called life, you actually reflect your current position. If you think that something is important to you, let it all out rather than getting into the mindset that you should settle. There is little worse than being with someone because you felt this is the best you can do and later someone who represents what you always wanted showing interest in you when you already have a couple of children. Be humble, but don’t decide to only go for the sure thing. Let’s see what and who is really out there for you!

5) Acting insensitive

Let somebody know you!

Women understand when it is just a guard put up by the other person, but men don’t always see through it. Acting indifferent may help protect you from people but can also keep the right one from coming in. Sure, it is an understandable mechanism in many public settings that works, but when someone is truly interested in you, it can definitely convince the guy that you are really not interested in getting to know him and just are not in the right state of mind to be too close to anyone. Learn to trust. Step by step. And lose the guard when the time is right.

So how can you avoid falling for lies, especially when the intent is malicious?

Understand when starting communication, it is better to listen than speak. If you speak about yourself too much, you might miss the warning signs and give the wrong guy too much of an opportunity to simply tell you what you want to hear rather than letting you know who he is.

Con-artists are avid observers. They look for weaknesses at all times. And when they think they have found one, they will continue to attempt to exploit them.

So keep your mouth shut and don’t yap about everything you think you want and need for him to have nothing other to do than agree and feed you lines. Con-artists always go for the easy. The moment the other party shows signs of using his or her head and expressing doubt where things make no sense, respect kicks in and he or she backs off.

Being too needy is fine, but do not show all of it so much without reciprocal proof. There is no such thing as being too needy. If you are “too needy” you will match best with a partner who is equally needy. But if you don’t watch out, you might miss that person and wind up with a user.

If you happen to be a member at www.datebytype.com you can at any time contact the admin should you have any doubts in the sincerity of a member. You would be surprised how many times some people not sure and without proof of anything being wrong have done so enabling the administration to take action and remove such individual based on the amount of similar information provided.

Are you shy?

There is nothing wrong with being shy, careful and wanting to move things slowly.

Shyness is instinctive and there is nothing wrong with being shy. If you are not shy enough, you will potentially lose yourself in others. So don’t necessarily try to overcome something that is simply a normal reaction to the world I have just described above.

Never allow yourself to be bamboozled or to be talked into something you are not comfortable with.

Communication is king. Communication is key!

And we believe that blood types and compatibility go hand in hand. You need to find out your blood type first though before you can register for free and search for a potential partner who shares your blood type.

Imagine a world where people can see through each others and nobody makes mistakes based on being deceived and miscommunicating. We believe that when you choose someone compatible by blood type, exactly this becomes the case.

Wishful thinking and fantasyworlds are our taboos because we believe reality is more exciting than fiction.

We hope this article has helped you and will help many avoid making mistakes. Mistakes close doors to blessings. And when we eliminate the bad, the good has a gate wide open. And if you can think of how we can improve our free service to make things easier for everyone, please drop us a line. We are also on Facebook and Twitter. So do not hesitate to let us know!

Find THE piece that fits.

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Hope to be of service!

Your Datebytype Team!

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Why is there a blood shortage?

Whether or not there is a blood shortage for you depends of course on YOUR blood type. If your blood type is AB positive then chances are you may always have someone’s blood available as all types are applicable for you.

But if you are rh negative and especially O negative, you may have issues getting a transfusion. You see:
In emergency situations EVERYONE gets O negative blood to “make sure nothing goes wrong”.

What a lazy way out!

Of course there are a few problems that need some solving and let me list them for you here:

1) People just don’t know their blood types

And yes, there is an issue with this. Not considered important, because you are not planning to crash a motorcycle into a van.

2) A lot of reasons that blood types are diagnosed incorrectly

Sometimes human error, other times different issues. The bottom line is that we need to be aware of the 4 major reasons why blood type tests can show different results.

3) No compensation in most donation centers

The problem stated is that giving money for blood encourages individuals with high-risk behavior to lie about it. This might be true. But there have to be other ways than just cash to encourage people and make the drive and time worth their while. The medical industry profits strongly from blood donated, but instead of giving back to those who make the efforts, many centers hire call centers and spend money for expensive commercials rather and oftentimes harass O negative donors.

4) Mismanagement

Do I need to explain this one further?

Artificial blood substitutes have been on the way for quite some time.

So what is the solution?

For starters, everyone in the world needs to find out their blood types.

And the easiest way to do that is to call the physician or hospital where you have previously been cared for.

You may even be able to find the love of your life based on your blood type.

The level of awareness has to rise. And that will already kick things off. If you want to know more about the travesties of mismanagement, Google how much blood is being tossed away every month.

There is no excuse for having a blood shortage for anybody who is rh negative or positive. So if you are rh negative and a regular donor, first of all demand to:

a) Be taken off the list to be called everytime that you are ready to donate again.

Believe me: I am not joking. If you accept this behavior, you actually might increase the blood shortage as you contribute to the lazy behavior of pretending that the system in place is actually “good enough”.

Force them to be creative, and they make a killing with donors like you. Otherwise they benefit. Which is fine. But only if they benefit others as well.

b) If you decide to donate, ask them to give back to the donors, not just you.

Using guilt to get you to donate is dirty. Donating is the right thing to do, but there are also questions whether or not some of the blood is used for other purposes which, if true, should require informing the donors.

While you are there to give of yourself for others, the people present are there to make money. You supply a product. I am not even convinced that it is the right thing to pay cash to everyone donating. But the bottom line is most of the centers don’t give back and simply pocket the commission due to you.

If there was a way to donate to an important charity, it would be the perfect solution.

I am not talking about major ones not making a lot of a difference.

I am speaking about local charities.

Don’t just donate blood.

If they harass you via phone to donate, harass them back and refuse donation until they put in place something that inspires more people to donate.

Greed is the main reason for the blood shortage. And it is the main enemy. So the only thing we all can do is battle it. Because if we don’t, we continue being used to financially benefit others while causing people in need to lack the blood required to save their lives.


How to find out your blood type

The only requirement in our dating site is that you know your blood type. You can search a potential partner based on blood type and you can be found by the same criteria. A lot of people are completely unaware of their own blood types, so we hope our service will inspire more and more people to find out theirs.

Here are 3 easy ways to find out your blood type:

1) Call your physician or hospital where you have been cared for.

Your blood type is usually on file somewhere, but unless you ask for it, normally the doctors won’t bother telling you. Simply give them a call and ask them to look it up. This turns out to be the easiest way generally speaking.

2) Donate blood

Before you do, read Is Donating Blood Right For You? first. Generally speaking, there is a health benefit to it. But in some cases, a serious health risk is being attached to it. Make sure that you are right for donating blood and donating blood is right for you and I also advise you to contact your personal physician aside from the doctor working for the donation center.

3) Order a testing kit

You can order one here or search Google for Eldoncard or other services. Some new ones are even cheaper and easier and more are coming out. By the time you read this post, you might have found a better option which I hope you will share below in form of a comment.


Human error and other reasons can cause your test results to be inaccurate. Make sure that you look at 4 major reasons why blood type tests can show different results should there be variations.

As soon as you know your blood type, you are free to register at Datebytype. And through your blood type, members can find you here where you as well will be able to find potential partners or friends based on their blood types.


High-altitudes and blood types

When looking at mountain trekking, high-altitude climbing you need to know that there is a predisposition based on your blood type determining whether or not this type of adventure is something that you are likely going to do well in.
At first let’s look at ancestry in order to get some hints whether or not it is in your nature to participate in such a sport.

Let’s say you’re blood type …

A people are the least likely to do well. A people are the descendants of the first farmers living a relaxed, planned-out life without too many surprises. Taking risks is not in the nature of blood type A people. Usually low-altitude locations tend to be the homes of the ancestors of blood type A people. Under stress, blood type A people tend to easily panic which is never a good thing in situations where every decision counts.
If you are blood type A and planning to go to the Himalayas, prepare yourself as follows:

– Don’t only plan the trip. Prepare mentally and visualize your adventure.
– Force yourself to spend a few hours a week preparing. Be it Yoga, meditation or swimming while concentrating on training yourself to hold your breath for a long time. Anything you think you should do to make you feel ready for the quest is advised to do.

Double exposure portrait of woman performing yoga asana reflects unity of human and nature

Double exposure portrait of woman performing yoga asana reflects unity of human and nature

– Activate your intuition. It helps us survive. The inner antenna will lead you when the map is lost or there is no GPS.

Your oxygen supply is based on adrenaline or lack thereof. And that is based on your inner state. Do you really want to climb through the mountain ranges? Then ask yourself first why. If a sufficient answer is found, never lose focus of that reason or goal.
Blood type A people tend to do well when determined, but this determination needs to be found within. You don’t have to be a natural at anything or love it for it to grow on you eventually.
Do not assume you can just do something and be good at it right away. Take your time, absorb feedback, watch what others do and how they do it.

Then pick a date a while ahead and continue not just with the focus on your goal, but also the reward after which you will have to visualize while on your quest.

Blood type O people are the natural born hunters. Their goal: Get the meat.
When it comes to long-term excursions however, blood type O people tend to not do as well.
Blood type O people however are the most intuitive. So the key is to only face on the reason you really want to do mountain climbing. Then keep your eyes on that if you believe the goal is worth it. The rest will come when it comes.

Under no circumstances continue your journey, should you ever doubt that you should do it.

Prepare yourself as follows:

Be good to yourself. Simple as it sounds. You need positive energy to make it through. The physical strain can be bypassed easily by simply developing the right technique for your own body and state of mind. But you need to be centered. And when you are, you will find a way to make it through and do very well.

B people are mind over matter. And not only that. Said to have originated in the Himalayas, blood type B is associated with a strong will. Your will is already there. SO now the key is to focus on the physical aspects.
Train endurance, long-distance running might be great. Swimming as well as hitting the gym and focusing on related movements such as pull-ups.


“Living in both worlds”, AB people have to simply ignore one side, the one that wants relaxation and planned-out and predictable lifestyles. In order to properly prepare yourself for the quest, give “the other side” what is craved for the time before trekking and treat yourself to as much stress-free life as you possibly can. It is within you to do well when mountain trekking, so do not worry about not making it.
Do some training and don’t allow yourself to get sidetracked.


Who is your perfect partner according to your blood type?

The formula is very simple:

For women:

If a man can donate blood to you, he is compatible.

For men:

If you can donate blood to a woman, she is compatible.

However, two people with the same blood types appear to be the most compatible ones.
Communication appears more natural, less misunderstandings.
People are more likely to just “get each others” in terms of non-verbal communication.

There also needs to be considered whether a person who is not blood type O carries the O recessively or not.
This is called your genotype. Your phenotype only registers the dominant gene, so if your phenotype is A or B,
it means your genotype can be AA, AO in the case of phenotype A and BB or BO in the case of phenotype B.
There are many more AO and BO people than AA and AO people and the distribution in Europe looks as follows:

Genotype distributions in Europe

OO: 42 percent

AO: 38 percent

AA: 8.4 percent

BO: 8 percent

BB:0.36 percent

AB: 7 percent

Note: Blood type AB is both, the genotype and the phenotype as neither A nor B are dominant.

Note: You can also carry the O recessively if you are AB, but that is rare. It is a phenomenon called cisAB where the A and the B are encoded into one gene.
So for example, your blood type can be phenotype AB but your genotype can be cisAB/O.

The formula that I am mentioning above will guarantee that there is a good chance for a healthy pregnancy.
One example is the so-called rh disease which would never come into play.
So do not expect the pharmaceutical industry ever to endorse blood type dating.

Not convinced?

Take a second to go to http://www.datebytype.com/users and type in your own blood type and see who pops up who shares it.

You can play around with the search function and see other blood types which are compatible. The most important thing to remember is knowing what you are looking for to be the key. If you think long-term then act long-term. You just want to have fun, be open and honest about it.
Here is the chart pointing out who can donate to you, who you can donate to … meaning … which men and women are most compatible with you.

If you are:

and a man, your perfect woman is blood type:
A+ AB+
and a woman, your perfect man is blood type:
A+ A- O+ O-

and a man, your perfect woman is blood type:
O+ A+ B+ AB+
and a woman, your perfect man is blood type:
O+ O-

and a man, your perfect woman is blood type:
B+ AB+
and a woman, your perfect man is blood type:
B+ B- O+ O-

and a man, your perfect woman is blood type:
and a woman, your perfect man is blood type:
Every blood type compatible

and a man, your perfect woman is blood type:
A+ A- AB+ AB-
and a woman, your perfect man is blood type:
A- O-

and a man, your perfect woman is blood type:
all types are compatible
and a woman, your perfect man is blood type:

and a man, your perfect woman is blood type:
B+ B- AB+ AB-
and a woman, your perfect man is blood type:
B- O-

and a man, your perfect woman is blood type:
and a woman, your perfect man is blood type:
AB- A- B- O-

You have 3 choices:

1) Go to the Datebytype.com homepage and look for the picture of someone you like. Who knows, she or he might be perfectly compatible in terms of blood type and everything else.

2) Go to the users page and then type in your blood type as this is the most compatible one long-term speaking.

3) On the same users page type in the blood types compatible with you as given in the chart above. And if you happen to be set on a certain blood type that you really want to search for, then just go for that.


Knowing your blood type means knowing your health

I have recently published Are you a traveller with a rare blood type? in order to highlight the importance of knowing your blood type, as there have been travellers in deep trouble having a rare blood type and not being able to or having a very hard time finding a compatible donor in countries where their type is even more seldom.

But did you know that you could also be visiting a country where certain diseases are easier for you to get and affect you much worse than others if you have a certain blood type?

You don’t have to be a believer in the association between blood types and personality traits in order to want to know your blood type. Blood types and general health are strongly associated which is being proven by more and more studies.
The examples are endless and here are some of them to let you know the risk for you according to your blood type:

Diabetes: This study is unique in terms of including the rh factor which is usually being overlooked. According to it, blood type O negatives are much less at risk while people who are B positive are the highest.

Malaria: Blood type O is protected more than the others. A seems to be affected the worst.

Stomach Cancer

More bad news if you’re blood type AB: Your risk for stomach cancer is roughly 26% higher than if you had blood type B or O, concludes a study from the American Journal of Epidemiology. (If you’re type A, your risk is 20% higher than those with type B or O.)

More here …

A few more examples are being highlighted in the following video:

Overall people with the rhesus negative blood factor appear to be affected the worst by illnesses in general.

What we are now learning more and more about as well are mental health issues and their relationship to blood types.
Here are a few examples:

Suicide: Studies have shown a high number of people with blood type A amongst those who have killed themselves. Low in B and O.

Criminal activities:

Murder: A high percentage of people with blood types B and O. Low in A.

Now wait a second:

People consider it far-fetched to assume that blood types and personality traits are in any way related. But if mental health is being associated with blood types, wouldn’t mental health in general be associated with predispositions and therefore so closely related to personality traits in general that a relationship between the two would have to be there?


“Do you have a favorite love story?”

There is a good chance if you are asked this question, nothing will come to mind.
And usually people use a “classic example” like Romeo and Juliet or Cesar and Cleopatra … how unique.
And I have to admit I wouldn’t know what to answer either, because whenever I think I know of one, the couple tends to divorce a couple of years later … until now:

This one has caught my eye


Australian ex-model Turia Pitt suffered a deadly burn that left 65% of her body disfigured and burnt…… She lost her fingers, thumbs, and even her hair after being trapped in a grassfire…. A CNN reporter asked her husband Michael Hoskin “did you think about leaving your wife and hiring someone to take care of her and move on with your life?” His reply touched many Christians around the world when he said “I married her soul, her character, and she is the only women that will continue to fulfill my dreams” TRUE LOVE is UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

And sure enough … it’s true:

Turia Pitt (born July 24, 1987) is an Australian mining engineer, motivationalist and author.
Turia Pitt was competing in an ultramarathon through Western Australia’s Kimberley region in 2011 when she was caught in a bushfire. An inquiry into the Kimberley Ultramarathon was damning of the race organizers, RacingThePlanet. She suffered burns to 65% of her body and had four fingers from her left hand and her right thumb amputated. She launched Supreme Court action against the organizers, and in May 2014, it was reported that it was resolved with an out-of-court settlement.

This was them before the accident:


And here are my thoughts:

If you leave someone because of something like this, you have never loved the person to begin with. And harsh as it may sound even in a time of crisis it may actually be better to be left by the wrong person and know the truth.
If you love someone, you will not be able to leave the person because of something like this, especially knowing that this is a time she needs you the most.

And if the one you love loves you back unconditionally, anything can be overcome.


12 Reasons Why You Should Never Be On A Diet

Just now I have seen an image that has bothered me to pieces.


All of the above is correct … instead of the diet part. It doesn’t fit. It spells force, obsession, self-centered behaviour and gives a message that you are not ok the way you are.

Not convinced?

Here is why getting or staying on a diet is the worst thing to do, especially for those with low self-esteem and those who use food to substitute inner peace and balance artificially:

12 Reasons Why You Should Never Be On A Diet

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Does your blood type impact your personality?

Is it just me or are more and more people paying attention to this?


Mosquitoes prefer blood type O

Could it be that whatever is in the A antigen that can kill a blood type B person and whatever is in the B antigen that can kill a blood type A person, is also what keeps mosquitoes from wanting any part in it?

If this is the case, then it is not the only reason mosquitoes might be biting you more than others.


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