In a couple of sentences the difference between online dating disasters and online dating blessings is the approach of honesty, gradually increased openness and steadfastness forbidding anyone to talk you into anything.
The longer version goes as follow:
When you find a guy you really like, invite him to chat in private through another platform. If you continue chatting on the dating site, he may get sidetracked by other women and you can end up losing him to someone else.
Never use a picture that is too perfect. Sure, you can get a guy to be attracted in you. But long term speaking it may not be the best idea. Use a picture that of course looks prettiest, but also expresses who you are. Something of you playing sports, singing on stage or whatever else that might help both of you connect on a deeper level than simply being attracted to beauty.
Do not use a picture that is too old. If you are in your 40s using a picture from your late twenties, it is highly misleading and likey to lead to disappointment. Sure, a guy expecting you to look that way may still be willing to have sex with you, but it will not likely lead anywhere because afterall you are not what he expected. And on the other hand, a perfectly compatible guy might also be too intimidated thinking he would not have a chance for you to truly be into him.
Move on gradually. Passion is great. But if you want a longterm relationship, let things build up. Relationships are best if both sides are equally interested in one another. If one of you is too aggressive and the other too passive, chances are it might lead to an imbalanced relationship.
Cam chat is a great way to get a feeling for the other person. Chat can only go so far. Take your time and don´t meet too soon, but have some Skype dates first, preferably in the evening hours. Then take a nice sleep and when you wake up and truly feel good and think about the other person, keep moving on. If there is anything creepy or unsure about it, don´t feel obligated to continue the relationship and stop it right there.
Give only compliments which you truly mean. Sure, it is nice to make someone else feel good about himself. But let´s be real. The meaningful compliments are the ones that go deep and stay there for the rest of the relationship. People always remember how they felt about one another when they met. So never feel like you have to make things happen, but let things happen by being real.
Ask yourself if you are truly ready for a new relationship. If the answer is “no”, you can still join a dating site. You can even read messages. But be careful replying to anything. You don´t want someone to talk you into being ready. You want to have access to the right man WHEN you know deep down inside that you are ready and want to move on to something amazing.
And one more:
Never talk about past relationships, even if the new man you meet becomes your best friend. That is what female friends are for. Even if you want to tell him how much better he is, men want to feel that they are enough for you in everyway and that being with them makes you literally forget every man you have ever been with before him.
Unfortunately one of the main mistakes men make on online dating sites is exaggerating with income. If you lie about your income, you will attract the wrong women. Even if the girl falls for it, eventually she will still be unsatisfied, because what drew her to you was not really you, but what she thought you could offer to her.
Ask yourself what you really want. And envision a way to have that without settling for less. And not just regarding how the partner will look. “Playing the field” is often a sign of not having faith that someone amazing will take real interest in you. It is important to have confidence, but allow yourself to gain that through honest communication. True confidence comes from being completely yourself and still being wanted. Not through making things up and testing how many women you can sleep with. Know that you can find someone amazing and don´t get sidetracked by what you may consider a “sure thing” or women who are too interested in what you can offer them without really being into who you are.
If a woman is truly interested in you, she will NOT ask you for money. Even if a woman is struggling, she will not want a man to necessarily know that and rather wants to fix that situation to be truly ready for you in every way. If ever you feel a need and desire to help out, make sure that desire comes only from within and not via manipulation of any sort (e.g. “I may not be able online, because I cannot pay the bill and talk to you. I wished I had 500 Dollars to pay for the entire year”).
Confidence is great. Arrogance is a No-No. If you don´t feel good enough for someone or too good, fix that and create balance within yourself or move on to someone where you feel neither of those. There are times we are more confident than others. Take charge and decide when YOU want to talk. There is no need to be shy. This is online and you can log off whenever you feel that the vibe is just not right right now.
Humor is the best way to enter a woman´s heart. Even if you do not meet the criteria she demands in her profile.
Remember: We often think we know what we want and what makes us happy. But in the end what everyone is interested in is how we feel when being with the other person. And if the answer is “happy and relaxed”, you will have a chance ending up the one she chooses to be with for life.
If you have to ask yourself why a woman might be interested in you, there is a good chance that she might not be interested in YOU. Once again: Indicating a high income might be one of the factors playing a role in this. Body language, reaction time etc. speak louder than words. Never make too quick decisions. Allow your instinct to guide you, sleep over things and know you cannot force love. There are many members on our dating site and if something doesn´t seem too click, your real match might be just two clicks away.
No lie will make you happen long term. Eventually, when a relationship takes place, each lie will come back to haunt you. Saying “I don´t want to talk about it right now” or even avoiding answering something you are not totally comfortable with can be a much better solution than simply trying to figure out what the other person wants to hear and taint your reality and her expectations with that.
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